This blog is My musings as a Dom of several years. It is meant to educate and as such will develop as time goes on. There is a difference between educating and training. I believe that to learn techniques you need to have a mentor who has developed the proper respective skills (training)that is best learned hands on. Education, on the other hand is the dispersal of information. Thank you for viewing My blog and please feel free to comment.
Thursday, November 4, 2010
TURNOVER
No I am not talking about apple turnovers. I was recently asked why I felt there was such a high turnover rate in D/s relationships. "Vanilla" couples will date for three to five years before getting married - after getting to know each other for that long the couple thinks they know one another but chances are 50/50 that the marriage will end in divorce. With all the clueless Dom's and the desperate sub(s)/slave(s) out there, they will know each other for a month before collaring. It is almost impossible to get to know someone in a month so there is a good chance that you are not as compatible as you at first might think. In a month there is still an infatuation that tends to cloud clear thinking and people jump into a relationship that may or may not be healthy for all involved. I am not saying that the sub or slave is wrong for being desperate. They have a NEED to be controlled and if they find someone willing to help them by taking control of their life, they jump at the opportunity. This is just human nature. I recently had someone e-mail Me on a BDSM site. We sent less then a dozen e-mails back and forth between the two of us before she asked "So, do you want me." My response was that I was certainly interested but I don't even know you yet. Her response, "I understand." I have not heard from her since even though I sent her a couple of other e-mails that I know she read. Again, I am not trying to scare anyone off from the life - between the right people it can be wonderful, just know who you are getting involved with. A lot of so called Dom's are just abusers and for a few weeks anybody can keep up a facade.
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